Kids are all grown up, the once young couple is now heading towards the mature years. It has always been the simple things in life that gets me glowing. But more so now than before. With age and life experiences comes the better appreciation for such things.
I had the most simplest of day-out’s with hubby today. But it has made my heart feel mellow and has definitely put me in a good mood. Nothing special at all about the days beginning. It started with our WIFI not working and needing a call to the telco company. Followed with ‘man of the house’s’ unwillingness to help and his wife speaking her mind. When she speaks her mind, she really speaks her mind. She doesn’t use swear words, but there may have been elements of black mail. “Ah! you cook your own dinner tonight…” for a man who stuffs up two minute noodles this is really the ultimate threat.
Well apparently he wanted to have a cup of coffee first. Once that was sorted, he wanted to bail out by going to work with the ready excuse “have reports to write”. I reminded him of the shirts that I bought, that needed to be exchanged as they were too small for him. I am going to be unavailable for sometime starting next Saturday. Thirty one years of married bliss has made the poor man incapable of choosing shirts for himself so he caved in to go shopping with me. I mean to just that one shop and then he had the rest of the day to attend to his reports.
The Jeep is his pride and joy. It’s no Maserati. but it sure gets treated as one. He likes to put on this air as a tough and ‘don’t care’ macho man. But that’s just the surface. At times he could sound rather callous too. But when you peek inside you see a sentimental mush. He is an automobiles enthusiast. None of them due to their status or luxury. Him and the boys regularly make way to car shows (well not so regularly but when ever their free time and car shows align together).
However the Jeep holds a special place in his heart, especially the wrangler type ones. He learnt to drive on a Jeep with his dad. Although the lesson only lasted the one time as the day ended up with disagreements as usual, it still holds a special place in his heart. More so than he likes to let it out. So this Jeep takes the special place in the garage while our regular cars are left to fend for themselves on the driveway, the curb or at times even the grass/lawn.
It was a nice sunny day but temperature was low enough to enjoy the day. Once again we started off with a regular squabble, “where did you keep the keys? you were the last one to drive” as usual the scapegoat was going to be me.
Yes, I was the last to take it out. As on that auspicious day I had lent my car to his work mate whose car was at the mechanic. So reluctantly he gave me the Jeep. But, but, but … I quickly remembered that I did not park it in the garage. So he was the last to drive. Got him on technicality.
Squabbles don’t last long (most times). We both laughed at each other, I was happy to prove that I was not in the wrong (as usual) and he sheepishly was trying to butter me up.
We may be past our prime but in our hearts we are the same when we first met. I am not talking about anything hot and heavy, but something as simple as holding hands still makes me feel eighteen again (well in my case nineteen, that’s when I met him).
The mirror –
Shows the grays and the wrinkles.
Shows the muffin tops that’s refusing to hide
and that one hair that peeks out of my chin
But oh mirror!
Those grays and wrinkles are of two lives who have lived. Of lives that at times had almost drowned to the bottom of the sea bed. Each one of us has taken turns to resuscitate the other and together we have surfaced up to the top by just strongly holding on to each other.
But oh mirror!
You do not know the struggles I’ve been through to get those muffin tops. Even the big tummy on my hubby, it took many years and many beers to get there. Just like Rome wasn’t built in a day. It is a sign that our lives were not just misery and doom, we made time for fun and laughter too.
Who gives a dime (You could replace it with a ruder a word if you wish) about a hair that peeks out of my chin. Because the most important person, that is my husband, with his diminished eye sight can’t see it anyway. So if my man doesn’t care who gives a dime anyway.
So the young couple in spite of what the mirror was telling headed happily to the shops. Friendly banter followed at the shops, the mood was so good and they decided to have a coffee.
We found this gorgeous cafe in the beach side suburb of Glenleg. Struggling with reflux I am not allowed to eat or drink anything on that menu. Decided to be a half a rebel and had a short black which later followed with ‘milanta’ (antacid). Made a date with hubby for next mothers day. So he is going to take me there for breakfast on Mothers day, May 2019. Hopefully by then I would have sorted out my reflux issues. We laughed about making a date for a year later with the waiter.
When two people are happy they infect it to those they come in contact with. So the moth and the butterfly went on spreading the pollen along the way. It was just a drive and coffee but feels like so much more. Life has been so busy lately and when you have no time and even the little time you get together becomes so precious.
I don’t want the moon, I just want to watch the moon with you.
And Oh Mirror! if you have ears and you hear us squabble. Don’t be afraid. Squabbling is our way of communicating. It is our way to show that we are both equal. It is our way to show that we don’t conform out of fear or lack of freedom. You will notice neither of us are afraid to admit wrong or defeat. We both know the value of love, life and loss. So we don’t hold a grudge and waste our time together. I know I married a mule. And I know mules can be stubborn. But, I also know, when you work the mule favorably, it’s a great animal to carry your burdens.
Here’s to more squabbles(maybe little less of them), wrinkles and gray hairs. Here’s to more simple things in life and growing old together.
I don’t want the moon, I just want to grow old together watching the moon with you.